It’s deciding what you can’t take with you.

After decades in a home, there’s simply more than will fit in the next space. And for many seniors and their families that reality feels overwhelming.

At Your Tasks Our Time, this is the moment where people often feel stuck.

“What do we do with all of this?”

The good news is: there are thoughtful, respectful solutions. You just need a plan.

First, Let’s Shift the Mindset

Before we talk logistics, it’s important to acknowledge something:

This isn’t just about “getting rid of things.”

It’s about:

• Letting go of a home filled with memories
• Making decisions about meaningful belongings
• Navigating a major life transition

When this process is rushed or dismissed, it creates stress and conflict.

When it’s handled with care, it can feel organized, intentional, even peaceful.

Step 1: Identify What Truly Matters

We always start here.

Before deciding what goes, we help our clients clearly define what stays.

That includes:

• Meaningful furniture pieces
• Important documents
• Sentimental items and heirlooms
• Everyday essentials for their new space

Once those priorities are clear, everything else becomes easier to evaluate.

Step 2: Create Categories for What’s Left

Instead of one overwhelming pile, we break things into manageable paths:

• Gift to Family
• Donate
• Sell
• Recycle
• Discard

This structure turns a stressful process into a series of smaller, more manageable decisions.

Step 3: Passing Items On to Family

This step can be surprisingly emotional—and sometimes complicated.

Our advice:

• Offer items, don’t assign them
• Give family members time to decide
• Avoid pressure or guilt

Not everything will be claimed and that’s okay.

What matters most is giving people the opportunity, not forcing the outcome.

Step 4: Donation With Purpose

Many families find comfort in knowing their items will help someone else.

We coordinate donations so that:

• Items go to organizations that can truly use them
• Pickups are scheduled and handled efficiently
• The process doesn’t become another burden on the family

It’s not just about clearing space, it’s about giving items a second life.

Step 5: Selling Items of Value

Some belongings may have resale value, but navigating that process can be time-consuming.

Options may include:

• Estate sales
• Online auctions
• Specialty buyers for certain items

We help families determine what’s worth selling and what may not be worth the time or effort.

Because not everything of value is practical to sell.

Step 6: Responsible Clean-Out

There are always items that can’t be donated or sold.

We coordinate:

• Clean-out services
• Recycling when possible
• Proper disposal

So families aren’t left figuring out what to do at the last minute.

Why This Part Feels So Overwhelming

Most families underestimate this phase.

They think: “We’ll just donate what we don’t need.”

But in reality, they’re managing:

• Emotional decisions
• Logistics and scheduling
• Physical labor
• Time constraints

All while balancing their own busy lives.

It’s a lot.

Where We Come In

At Your Tasks Our Time, we guide families through this entire process, step by step.

We:

• Help sort and organize belongings
• Provide clear options for everything that can’t move
• Coordinate donations, sales, and clean-outs
• Keep the process moving without pressure

Most importantly, we bring calm and clarity to what often feels overwhelming.

Final Thoughts

Letting go of belongings doesn’t have to feel chaotic or rushed.

With the right support, it can be:

• Thoughtful
• Respectful
• Well-organized

And even… a little freeing.

A Direct Ask

We specialize in helping seniors (65–105) who are:

• Downsizing from a long-time home
• Facing tough decisions about their belongings
• Feeling overwhelmed by where to start

If you know someone asking, “What do we do with everything?” — that’s when we can help most.

Referrals from realtors, senior living communities, estate professionals, and families allow us to continue supporting seniors with care, dignity, and compassion.

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Before You Begin the Conversation

Before you start the conversation with your loved one, keep a few things in mind.

Be Respectful and Non-Judgmental

A Senior’s possessions represent a lifetime of memories. Dismissing their value as worthless is equal to dismissing the senior’s value.

Don’t Lecture

Most seniors will respond well if you share your concerns and express your desire for them to be in a safe and comfortable environment.  It’s not about forcing them to get rid of things, it’s about helping them to live their best life.

How to Begin the Conversation

How you start the conversation, and the tone you use, can impact the discussion either positively or negatively.  Come from a place of support and love so they understand your desire to help them. Below is a list of questions you can use to get the conversation started.

Open-ended questions will be better to gain more information.

• How are you doing/feeling?
• What’s going on in your life?
• Are you struggling to maneuver in your space?
• Are you able to easily find things that you need or want?
• Are you comfortable with how the space looks or feels?
• What would make you more comfortable?
• Do you need help?
• How can I help?

During the Conversation

Getting the conversation started is a step in the right direction.  Keeping the conversation going in a positive direction is just as important. Remember these key points as you progress through your discussion.

Simply Listen

This is probably the most important step in the process. When seniors let go of their possessions, it often feels like a loss of control. By listening to their wants, needs and desires, you’re helping to ensure that they are maintaining control.

Ask Questions

Allowing seniors to tell stories about the past as you sort through their possessions can help ease some of the anxiety during the process of letting go.

Pick Your Battles

Arguing over every item is going to end with lots of hurt feelings and no progress. Letting go takes practice and patience. Keep reminding your loved one of the ultimate goal … for them to live their best life.  It will get easier as they become more comfortable with letting go.

This process won’t be done overnight.  It’s not uncommon to go through an entire home 2 to 3 times to achieve the desired goals.  So be kind.  Be patient.  And remember, you may be in a similar situation yourself in the future.

Darla Pompilio

Your Tasks – Our Time, Inc

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Prior to Move Day:

Many people concentrate on the actual move day; however, there are steps you can take before that day to minimize anxiety and crises.

• While packing, be sure to clearly mark the contents of each box and which room the movers should put the box in your new home. It’s very helpful to mark a few boxes as “Open First.”  These boxes should contain the items you need on Day 1 (like medication, daily toiletries, linens, cleaning products).
• Be sure to complete a change of address with the post office, your banks and insurance providers. Some companies may ask you to wait until you have actually moved; however, some will allow you to make the request in advanced if you have a firm move day scheduled.
• Call to setup or transfer utilities and services so the electric, gas, cable and internet are turned on for move day.
• Schedule a locksmith to change the locks on move day.
• Get the room dimensions for your new home so you can plan out furniture placement to reduce or eliminate the need to move furniture after the movers have left.
• If you have small children, you may consider making arrangements for childcare on move day so you are not stressing about tending to your child while ensuring the movers are putting items in the correct room.
• Likewise, if you have pets, you may consider boarding them on move day. The movers will likely leave the door open while bringing in your items and you probably don’t want your pet to dart out when you’re not looking.
• Take advantage of online services for feeding your family. Look up restaurants in your new neighborhood that provide delivery service so you don’t have to fret over dinner on move day.  Also, schedule a grocery delivery or an in-store pickup from a nearby grocery store for either move day (or the day after).  This will save a couple critical hours of your time when you want to focus on other important tasks.

Day 1:

There is always the potential for unexpected obstacles to occur on moving day; therefore, planning what key tasks need to be completed will help you get back on track if or when those hiccups pop up.

• Safety Features – There are a few safety measures you should tackle right away to make sure your family is protected.
  • Change the locks and garage codes
  • Locate the circuit breaker and water shutoff
  • Ensure the smoke and CO₂ detectors are working
  • Install any childproofing features
• Clean Before Unpacking – If you have the chance to bring in a cleaning crew before your move day that may be extremely helpful. If not, focus on cleaning the essential areas first – the kitchen, bathrooms and bedrooms.  The other rooms can wait.  Be sure to have cleaning products handy.
• Begin Unpacking – There are different strategies when unpacking. Everyone can work on the same room to unpack it quickly.  Or, you can assign a different room to each family member.  Either way, the key rooms to prioritize are the kitchen, the bedrooms, and the bathrooms.  If you have enough time to unpack the entire room, then do it.  If it’s late in the day, then the focus should be on important items.  For example, linens to make the beds; medication and daily toiletries; plates, cups and eating utensils.  You may want to run the dishes through the dishwasher especially if they’ve been stuffed in boxes for some time.  Consider unpacking some toys to keep the little ones occupied while you focus on checking off tasks on your To Do List. After the key rooms are unpacked, all other rooms can be tackled in due time.

Week 1:

After the rush of moving day is behind you, you will still have important things to accomplish.

• With all the shuffling of items that takes place during a move, it’s important to pull all the paperwork for the move together into one location before it gets misplaced or accidentally thrown away. Many people need the documentation for taxes so be sure to pull it together and put it in a spot you will be able to find it at a later date.
• Finish unpacking the remaining rooms. Try to tackle one room at a time and unpack as quickly as possible so boxes don’t continue to clutter your space for an extended period.
• Finally, take time to meet your neighbors. Settling into a new place can be nerve-racking but the transition can be made easier if you have a friendly face waving at you as you walk out the front door.

Author: Karen Kabara

Your Tasks – Our Time

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Eight Weeks Prior to Move

• Contact moving companies and get three estimates. Make sure you are giving them all the same information so you can get an apples to apples estimate.

Four Weeks Prior to Move

• Gather moving materials. U-Haul has a Moving Supplies Calculator to make the job easier.
• Start packing infrequently used items in the garage, storage areas, attic and out of season clothing.
• Number your boxes and start an inventory list. Boxes should be marked with the name of the room and contents on the top and at least 3 sides of the box. If the items are going into storage it’s best to mark all 4 sides for easy retrieval. Be sure to add an extra label that says “STORAGE” if boxes are being split between your home and the storage unit.

Three Weeks Prior to Move

• Notify utilities services. Request that utilities, phone and internet be shut off the day after your move and installed in your new home the day before arrival if possible.
• Call a locksmith and arrange to have locks changed in new home.
• Hire a cleaning company to clean both homes.

Two Weeks Prior to Move

• Complete and submit change of address forms and have mail forwarded or held.
• Update newspaper and magazine subscriptions
• Notify banks and credit card companies.

One Week Prior to Move

• Create an information sheet for the movers with the old and new addresses, directions and cell numbers.
• Finish packing and be sure to set aside suitcase and sufficient clothing for at least one week.
• Create a last-out, first-in box of day-to-day necessities. Bedding, towels, toiletries, toilet paper, basic tools, cleaning supplies, medications, snacks, and a camera to document anything broken during the move.

Moving Day

• Do a walk through before the movers arrive to verify that everything is packed and afterward to make sure that nothing was left.
• Give keys to real estate agent.
• Meet movers at new home & check items off of inventory list as they are unloaded.
• Inspect for damages and photograph relevant items before signing the release/bill of lading.
• Test faucets, toilets, utilities, phones, smoke detectors, security systems and turn on water heater.
• Call Your Tasks – Our Time to help unpack, get settled and hit the ground running!

Planning is the key to managing your move and by taking it one step at a time you can reduce a lot of the stress that comes with any move.

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Broadly speaking, there are two ways to Rightsize. You can Rightsize to move or Rightsize to stay in place. Either way, the goal is to create a space that lets you live your best life. It’s about determining how your space and belongings are going to serve you in the future and making a mindful decision about how you want to live going forward.

Rightsize to Move
If you want to Rightsize to move, the goal is to create a space that serves your current and future needs. Here are some reasons you may choose to move.

• Costs – Home maintenance, home repairs, utility bills, taxes and home insurance can all be a financial burden on a senior’s income.
• Health – Physical limitations and medical conditions can create challenges in daily home upkeep. One fall or illness can drastically impact your future living condition.
• Lifestyle – A warmer climate, being near the children, being part of an active senior community can be an enticing reason to move.

Rightsize to Stay-in-Place
Rightsizing to stay in place is all about access, safety and stuff. To create a space that allows you live your best and most comfortable life. Let’s talk about some of the reasons you would choose to Rightsize in place.

Freedom from Stuff
One of the benefits is a tremendous sense of freedom from your stuff and surrounding yourself with only those things that you love and need. It can free both your mind and your heart so you can focus on those things that you enjoy and bring you happiness.

Easier to Clean
When you have less stuff, it will be easier to perform daily activities of living and the space will be safer, easier to de-clutter and clean.

No Place Like Home
Many develop an intense connection to the home they may have lived in for 30 plus years. Some preparation to avoid emergencies will be necessary, such as:
• Clearing walkways for canes or wheelchairs
• Adding grab bars in the bathroom
• Removing throw rugs and other trip hazards
• Moving appliances and other items used daily so they can be easily accessible

Rightsizing to Move
Where do you start if you are Rightsizing to move? The most important place to start is with the dimensions of the new space. This will inform your decisions about how many belongings to take. Are you moving to smaller home or a condo? Are you going from five bedrooms to one? Will you have any storage areas available like a garage, attic, basement or storage unit?

Start Small
Our advice is to start small with things you are not attached to, such as, plastic containers or things you have kept out of obligation. Begin the process in smaller spaces and areas you can complete in 1-2 hours, like linen closets or bathroom cabinets.

Group Items
Group similar items together so you can see what you own. This really informs your decision-making process. Create a maybe pile to avoid getting stuck in the purging process.

Measure Twice
Measure the closets in your current AND new space, including linear hanging space, shelves and shoe racks to compare space and determine what to let go and keep.

Basements, Attics & Garages
Basements, garages and attics can be overwhelming and are areas where you may need help physically, mentally and emotionally.

Garage Sales and Storage Units
We do not recommend either. Garage sales are a lot of work with very little return. Storage units are often a waste of money because things go in and never come out.

Rightsizing to Stay-in-Place
For those who want to stay in your current home, Rightsizing is not all about getting rid of stuff, but often about changing and moving things around. Rearranging things you need on a daily or weekly basis so things are easier to manage and to better serve your current needs. What’s going to serve you going forward? That means taking a look at what could be access and safety issues. Is your furniture appropriate for future needs? Will you be able to maneuver a cane, walker or wheelchair between rooms smoothly? Will you be able to reach your clothes or do you need to lower the clothing bars?

Who Can Help?
Once you have made the decision to Rightsize, the next step is to determine how you will get the job done and who can help?

Family & Friends
Family and friends will often volunteer to help and that can be a positive or negative experience depending on the relationship. The main thing to bear in mind is that you should have the final say about what items stay and go. Having said that, you do need to strongly consider your space limitations when de-cluttering and Rightsizing.

Movers
Movers do not Rightsize, Downsize or Organize. They do pack everything, sometimes even the garbage. They will occasionally unpack; however, that consists of taking the items out of the box and sitting them down anywhere there’s horizontal space.

Professional Organizers
Professional Organizers will organize your move by helping you sort, categorize, purge and Rightsize. They will also unpack and put away or unpack and organize once you have moved into your new home, but most do not pack prior to a move.

Senior Move Managers®
SMM are your one stop shop for managing the entire Rightsizing process. They will help you sort, categorize, purge, pack, create a floor plan of your new home, provide resources such as movers, handymen or painters and unpack and settle you in your new home. A SMM will save you time, money and reduce your stress.

What Happens to My Stuff?

Setting Expectations
Where will everything go? It’s a tough question because the market is flooded with common household items. Don’t assume that your children will want your furniture, but be sure to ask in case there is something special they would like to keep. Many people feel that their items are worth more than they are. The market for antiques is not as robust as it was in the past, so that prized antique piece that you paid thousands for 20 or 30 years ago, may be worth much less today.

Research
Research is key to finding new homes for your belongings. Start by sorting and categorizing the items you want to donate. This is important, because you need to know what each organization will accept for donations. Those who live in Pennsylvania are fortunate in that there are many thrift shops, donation organizations and houses of worship that will take common household items and some furniture. New Jersey residents have fewer donation resources available, especially for furniture donations.

Selling Items
There are several ways to sell items including auctions, estate sales and online platforms. Auction items will have to be transported to the place they will be sold and most auction houses will only accept items that are hot on the market and in pristine condition. Estate sales are often held in the home. The items are often priced in advance, however, the bidders actually set the price by what they are willing to pay. EBay, Craigslist, Nextdoor and Facebook Marketplace are sites where you can post your items for sale. There are fees associated with most of these methods that can substantially cut into your profits, so choose wisely!

Disposing of Items
If you are Rightsizing over time then you may be able to use your regular garbage company for most or all of your disposal needs. Check with your local garbage company to see what and how much they will take, if they have special pick-up days for large items and if they charge a fee. The fee for your local garbage company is often substantially lower than hiring a junk removal company. If you have a significant amount of garbage, then you may want to check into renting a dumpster or hiring a junk removal service.

When Should I Rightsize?
Now, the sooner the better. Again, 30 to 60 years of stuff is no joke. It took you that long to fill up your home, so you are not going to Rightsize it overnight. You can do it over time, but have a set timeline and a plan so that are prepared for the future and you are creating a space that allows you live your best life.

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Six Weeks Prior to Move 

• Review your relocation allowance from your employer. Verify the expenses they will cover and which are your responsibility.
• Hire a mover and get 3 quotes from licensed companies.

Five Weeks Prior to Move

• Conduct a room-by-room survey to determine what to keep, sell or donate.
• Photograph or videotape valuable items and save for insurance purposes.
• Plan a yard sale, call your local charity or make other arrangements to dispose of items you will not be shipping.
• Start a file to keep all your moving documents in one location.  Tip: An accordion file works well because it’s contained, light weight and has lots of pockets for various information.

Four Weeks Prior to Move

• Gather moving materials.  Boxes, tape, tape dispensers, box cutters, etc.
• Call your local garage to schedule an appointment for routine maintenance. Check with your mover about car moving specifics if you are planning on shipping your car.
• Take pets to the veterinarian for shots and inoculations. ID and rabies tags should be securely attached to your pet’s collar.  Make arrangements at the kennel, if necessary to board your pet.
• Make a list of everyone to notify regarding your move such as: family, friends, insurance company, utility companies, doctors, accountant, bank, lien holders, credit card accounts, service providers, etc.
• Book your flights if you are flying to your new destination.
• Make arrangements for hotel or temporary living accommodations, rental car, etc.
• Cancel magazine and newspaper subscriptions and club memberships.
• Contact the Chamber of Commerce at your destination city for a welcome package.  Get acquainted with your new city!

Three Weeks Prior to Move

• Clean out your closets, garage, tool shed, attic, etc.
• Start packing infrequently used items. You can number boxes and keep a master inventory.
• Complete change of addresses forms and return to the post office or complete forms online. Forms are available at US Post Office website.
• Obtain necessary medical and dental records, school records, legal and financial documents and backup copies of computer files.
• Notify utility services. Request that utilities, phone and Internet be shut off the day after you the move and installed in the new home the day before before arrival.
• Hire a cleaning company to clean both the old and new spaces.
• Plan meals to use up perishable and frozen items.

Two Weeks Prior to Move

• Transfer prescriptions and ask for medical referrals. Be sure to have and adequate supply of medicine on hand.
• Check with insurance company to transfer coverage to your new home.
• If driving, have your car cleaned and serviced for the trip.  Prepare to have auto registration transferred.
• Call locksmith and arrange to have locks changed in new home.

One Week Prior to Move

• Reconfirm your travel and hotel accommodations at your new destination.
• Arrange child care services and pet care for pack date/s if necessary.
• Arrange parking permits and reserve elevator if necessary.
• Dispose of house plants – give them to friends and family or donate to a hospital or nursing home.
• Arrange for trash to be picked up after you leave.
• Dispose of flammable and explosive items. Typical items classified as dangerous goods that can not be transported are: bleach products, paint, gas cylinders, cleaning fluids, aerosols, gas and kerosene.
• Drain fuel from lawn mower and other machinery.  Drain all water hoses.
• Provide information sheet to movers with old and new addresses, directions and cell phone numbers.
• Create a last out and first in box of necessities. Bedding, towels, toiletries, toilet paper, basic tools, cleaning supplies, medications, snacks and a camera to document anything that was broken during the move.

One Day Prior to Move

• Finish packing any personal items you wish to take with you and set aside suitcases and sufficient clothing for at least 1 week.
• Disconnect TV, stereo and computer components. Pack all connection cords in clearly marked carton.
• Assemble all airline tickets, currency, credit cards, jewelry, medical records, school records, personal information, documents pertaining to your new home, cell phones and laptop computers. Be sure to keep separate so the packers do not pack in your shipment.
• Defrost and clean freezer and refrigerator. Discard any remaining food items.

Moving Day

• Plan your day so that you will be at your residence while the movers are there. Be available to direct the crew and answer any questions. Point out any items that require special handling or that you will want unloaded first at destination.
• Perform a “walk through” with the crew leader to make sure all items have been packed that are intended to be moved. Check the attic, basement, shed, closets, garage, drawers and cupboards.
• Give keys to real estate agent.
• Meet movers at the new home. Check items off inventory list as they are unloaded.
• Inspect for damages. Photograph relevant items before signing the release/bill of lading.
• Test faucets, toilets, utilities, phones, smoke detectors and security systems. Turn on water heater.
• Unpack.

Darla Pompilio

Your Tasks – Our Time, Inc

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